Hey! It Ain't Real!!!

• I'm posting this entry because i've heard/seen/read so many cases of depression/negative thoughts lately, that i've gotten extremely disturbed about it. That leaves me with no choice but to express my thoughts about this issue. Whether my entry is boring, un-interesting or un-attractive, why care? More importantly is, it addresses issues of the heart.

• To start this off, i conclude, NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, AIN'T REAL! I repeat again, NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, AIN'T REAL! If you would stop and think for just a moment, you might realise that negative thoughts are afterall, just THOUGHTS. If you were to question it's authenticity & origin, you would realise that it does not reflect on your reality at all! It's just what your coconut churned out to justify the happenings of your reality, but it does not snyc with the reality that you're facing.

1. "I'm a bad person."
2. "I can never do anything right."
3. "I'm not naturally incline to cooking/music/studying/maths/etc..."
4. "I can't trust anyone."
5. "There is no forever sweetness/blissfulness in a relationship before or after marriage."
6. "My relationship has broken up because i'm not good enough."
7. "I'm worthless."
8. "There's nothing worth loving about me."

• If any of the above (1) to (8) rings a bell to you, or you've just discovered you've been ringing all these to yourself, i think you ought to give yourself a few tight slap to wake up. Need help cause you can't lay your hands on yourself? Consider hiring me, i'm need in of a new revenue.

• Why the need to belittle yourself in so many ways that are not even true? Unknowing to you, you've become what you proclaim, be it vocally or in thoughts. Because believe it or not, "Proverbs 18:21 says: Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they that love it shall eat the fruits of it."

• If you might not know, througout your life, you develop specific ways of thinking through your own experience.

• Example: If you have experienced the break-up of an important relationship. In a similar situation down the road, it'll trigger previous unhappy patterns and ideas in your new relationship. This can be recalled even if it had happened a long time ago. If you allow these thoughts to dominate your thinking, you risk taking yourself into a vicious circle of negative and depressive reactions. Even blessings that comes knocking on your door would be denied by your vicious thought pattern.

• After saying so much, what's the result of this deal? You'd draw conclusions that would lead to your concussion. Whenever someone consult you on guys, your response might be, "Guys are all the same la, they'll treat you real good and when he has got your hand, that princess treatment is gone." Whenever someone consult you about ladies, your response might be, "Ladies are all materialistic, no money, no car, no career, they might not even consider looking at you." *These are just examples for illustrative puposes.

• C'mon readers, when are all these going to end? How true are all these statements? You mean male & female in the whole world are all as described above? I beg to differ. Why submit to belittling yourself and proclaiming your own death? What about the other side of the coin?

The next time you find yourself thinking negatives, check on your thoughts and question it's authenticity. You might just be shouting like me, "HEY!!! IT AIN'T REAL!!!"