Being Nice & Being Right

It's been quite a while since i last had an entry for my blog. So why make an entry now? Read on...

Have you ever been in a situation where your nice-ness and right-ness was being put through a test? Well I had.

Over the years I've noticed the difference between nice-ness and right-ness. Being nice doesn't necessarily mean that you are right, and being right doesn't necessarily mean that you got to be nice. Because nice-ness has no boundaries set, therefore, can be easily abused. Whereas right-ness has a line drawn clearly between 2 subjects, and only one, out of those 2 are right. For example a line drawn between black and white. Situations would only permit it's outcome to be either black, or white. Therefore, there is no grey involve! Still don't get it? Read on...

I became really disturbed about an incident that occurred like 2 weeks ago. I had a car accident. Yes, i'm THAT unlucky that day, was the words i said to myself at that very moment.

The story goes like this. A lady driver bump into my back bumper when i was driving along a one way traffic main road. The scene goes like this, this lady was trying to turn into the main road from a carpark exit, and as i was just about to past the front of her car, she started turning out already! and i was like shit! and quickly steered towards the right lane which was meant for the on coming traffic. Luckily at that moment there was no on coming traffic. Just when i thought i manage to avoid her dangerous act, i heard an audible *bump* and jerk on the back of my car. I sort of knew it wasn't that serious because the impact was not strong, but thank goodness i stopped! Because that gave me some time to ponder, since there's a *bump* and a jerk, surely there is something wrong. As i decide to look for that wonderful driver who bump into me, i saw that car zooming away. Feeling furious, i gave chase and thought to myself, "you bump into me and still got the cheek to drive off as if nothing happen." Oh, i was burning with anger. Because i knew that driver did something wrong.

When i finally caught up with the car and stopped by a taxi stop, i got out wanting to confront the driver, and out came a young lady with no signs of regret of what she had done. And as i went up i said, "hello...". Argh! Guess what! My nice-ness came out. Where are all those anger and right-ness that was all jumping up and down inside me protesting for justice!? It disappeared! Gosh, what exactly happened was a typical display of my nice-ness. Where are all my anger? It's not there anymore. Not like i did something wrong to people, but people did something wrong to me and yet i don't have the strength to confront it(the wrong). It's ironic isn't it? Come to think of it now, i really couldn't believe what got into me. It is simply ridiculous!

Now let's look at this topic from the points of doing the right thing. If i had been right:

(1) I would have done that lady driver real good by drilling into her that what she had done was wrong, and there is no tolerance of avoidance. This might impact her on how she'd live her from here on, either with integrity or like a rat.

(2) She can have true examples on how to teach her children or anyone, good moral values, be it now or in the future. Isn't that better than moral education class?

(3) She would live her life with clear conscience every time she has flash backs on this incident, so it doesn't haunt her. Isn't that the best sleeping pills?

(4) I would have done myself real good as this would add great value to building good character in me.

(5) I won't be disturbed by this incident till now, even though it happened almost 2 weeks ago. Because it showed an intolerable side of me which i want to change very much.

Look, I don't want to live my life in the same me (mentality, values, perspective) 20 or 30 yrs from now, i want to go through changes as much as i can, for the better. Today this incident happened between me & a complete stranger, a lady, and I'm already having difficulty finding strength to be right. How much more difficult it would be, if it's between my girlfriend, mother, wife, grandmother, aunties, or even close friends?

You ask me what am i going to do? I'll stand my ground and say, "Do The Right Thing!" I'm not going to get trapped in this nice-ness any more!

For those who find some sense in my entry and those still wavering, "HEY! Do The Right Thing!"

Cheers. ^_^